Bringing a new life into the world is an important milestone for a new mother completely filled with joy. However the postpartum period is also accompanied by unexpected emotional challenges. One of the most frequently faced challenges after delivering a baby (in the postpartum period) is postpartum blues, a temporary but overwhelming emotional state that can affect up to 80% of new mothers. While postpartum blues resolve on its own within a few weeks, but they can be distressing. During this time, the role of family support can help mothers adjust to this emotional rollercoaster that is early motherhood. In this blog, we will understand the concept of postpartum blues, its causes and symptoms, and the ways in which family members can offer real support to new mothers.
Know When we call it a Postpartum Blues?
Postpartum blues, or ‘baby blues,’ means mood swings, anxiety, sleeplessness and sadness that happens after childbirth. postpartum blues are temporary and with good care and family support, it normally subside within two weeks after delivery.
Reason why new mothers might feel a bit down or sad after having a baby (postpartum blues):
Body is going through a big shift – pregnancy hormones(estrogen and progesterone) suddenly drop after birth, that can seriously affect mood regulation.
Everyday exhaustion -Labor and delivery are physically demanding and then new mothers are immediately thrown into caring for newborn who needs them 24/7. Sleep deprivation due to nighttime feedings and newborn care can lead to fatigue and irritability.
New responsibilities and fear- Mothers might feel overwhelmed by the new responsibilities, worried about whether they are doing it right, or might be just scared.
They might feel alone. Sometimes, even with loved ones around, they don’t have a lot of support, or maybe they just missing their old life a little bit. That feeling of being alone can make the blues even worse.
Signs, you or your loved one is suffering of Postpartum Blues
Postpartum blues can present in different ways, but the most common symptoms include:
a) Mood swings , crying one moment and feeling happy the next
b) Irritability and frustration
c) Feeling tired all day and not able to sleep even when baby allows
d) Anxiety and restlessness
e) Difficulty focusing
f) Feelings of sadness or loneliness
It is important to note that postpartum blues do not impair a mother’s ability to care for her baby, but they can make the adjustment to motherhood much more difficult.
Family can play a big role to support new mother in overcoming Postpartum Blues:
Family members especially spouse, parents, siblings, and in-laws, can make a significant difference in how a mother copes with postpartum blues during this most important event of her life . Here are some easy ways in which families can help:
- Emotional support: Being present and understanding
One of the most valuable things family members can offer is emotional reassurance. A new mother might not always convey her feelings, but knowing that she is surrounded by supportive loved ones can help her feel less lonely and more understood.
Listen without judgment – Sometimes, a mother just needs to express her fears and frustrations without receiving advice. Simply listening and acknowledging her feelings can be really soothing.
Appreciate Her – Remind her that what she is feeling is normal and temporary. Assure her that she is doing a great job, even if she feels unsure.
Encourage open talks – Make it easy for her to feel and talk about her emotions by showing caring and loving gestures.
- Practical Help: Sharing Responsibilities
Family members must lighten the load by:
Helping her in baby care – Change diapers, burp, or rock them to sleep, which gives the mother much needed breaks.
Provide her nutritious meals – Preparing or at least be aware that she is receiving healthy meals ensures that the mother is well-nourished and has the energy to recover.
Handling household chores – Cleaning, laundry, providing her on bed water and fruits seem to be small but significant ways to help and show love, affection and care.
Encouraging rest – Ensuring that the mother gets proper rest is important. Take care of the baby for an hour or two can allow her to nap or relax.
- Encouraging and giving her time for self care and socialisation
New mothers often put themselves last while prioritising 24/7 care for their babies. Families should understand that ignoring self-care may lead to complete loss of feel good factor .
Encouraging short breaks – A simple walk outside, a warm shower, or time to read a book can improve a mother’s mood.
Arranging social visits – Encouraging visits from close friends or other mothers can help the new mom feel connected and less lonely.
Promoting light exercise – When she’s ready, gentle exercise like yoga or short brisk walks can boost her mood.
- Involvement of the Husband
The role of husband is particularly important in helping a mother cope with postpartum blues. Spouse can:
Share nighttime duties – Taking turns with baby care for few manageable early night or early morning hours can ease mother’s exhaustion.
Express appreciation – Simple words of appreciation and affection like ‘I’m happy for our new family life and new parenthood bond for us ‘, can boost confidence.
Be patient – Mood swings are common and understanding that this phase will pass can prevent conflicts.
When should we see a doctor – Watching for signs of Postpartum Depression
Family members should watch for signs of postpartum depression, which is more severe and can last long, like:
Persistent sadness lasting more than two weeks.
Extreme fatigue or disinterest in daily activities.
Difficulty bonding with the baby.
Thoughts of self-harm or harming the baby.
If symptoms persist or worsen, seeking professional help from a doctor or therapist is essential.
A strong support system through family Matters
Postpartum blues are a part of the journey into motherhood, but they don’t have to be faced alone. With love, patience, and support, families can help new mothers transition into their roles with confidence and emotional well-being.
If you know someone who has recently given birth, offer help, and remind them that they are not alone in this. The smallest gestures ,whether it is cooking a meal, offering affectionate gestures, or at times simply listening can make a difference in a new mother’s life.
Motherhood is beautiful, but it takes a team. Let us be the team that supports and uplifts new moms during this delicate time.
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